― Shannon L. Alder
Two of the biggest pieces of my personal work this year are to eradicate old narratives that are keeping me from being present in my daily life, as well as to notice how I am attempting to get my needs met.
I feel this work resonating so true in my own life that I wanted to share it on the blog in the hopes that it might speak to some of you. As I look around my life, I notice old stories creeping into perfectly beautiful moments. These old narratives sometime sound like, "You're not good enough. You're not ready to accomplish this yet. Who do you think you are? You will never make it. Just stay small Sarah." Have you ever experienced these or similar narratives? By working to eradicate these narratives I will be able to more fully embody the present moment. By working in your own lives to dispel these old stories, you too will be able to become more fully present!
The other piece of the puzzle I am working on is getting my needs met. This one is a bit more complicated to explain, but here's the basic premise. Usually as a young child our needs were not always met (we all experience this, this is not a blame game, just a fact). Because of this perhaps we move through our lives hoping that certain people will meet our needs and when they don't then we think there is something wrong with us. Can you relate?
Maybe you have an individual in your life that if you just shifted, moved, or explained yourself just a little bit more, they would get you? My coach helped me to understand that when we try to get our needs met from someone who just isn't available to meet them, we often try to make ourselves wrong (which never helps anyone). The richer work is to realize that people are where they are, and we don't need to rely on them to meet our needs. Its like banging your head against a wall thinking that you won't get a bruise? We continue to love, but without the expectation that certain individuals are there solely to meet our needs.
It becomes our work as wise and healthy adults to seek out communities and individuals who are prepared to meet us where we are at. Instead of trying so hard, why not try easy?
I am grateful for this beautiful life that is constantly offering me feedback and beautiful lessons in letting go. Lets make a pact to let go of old narrative this year! Lets also vow to notice from whom we are trying to get our needs met? We're in this together!!
May You Sweetly Seek:)