A: "Clearly, this question is in regard to breaking the spell cast over human behavior, which causes you to seek out and find misery. For happiness is your natural state of being, as is true health. Your quest for happiness is actually a desire for wholeness. Since you already have that which you desire, there is no need for outward motion. There is nothing to seek.
The misery habit is satiated the moment that you see greater light within a better alternative. You cannot break away from misery by studying its components. To do so brings you into its mire even more. Holy One, your answers lay before you even now. Be happy that you already are happy, and it is so.
It is true that certain accoutrements can lend to so-called happiness, yet this form of happiness is short-lived, for thrusting the power of happiness upon outward situations is a sure route to greater misery. Like a thirsty man walking in the desert, perpetually fooled by illusions of water, you who seek happiness through other people need first look within your Holy Self. There shall you find it in buckets.
While it is true that relationships and possessions are part and parcel of your human experience, the real truth is in their enjoyment and appreciation. He who is miserable within his own self is rarely healed of this condition by his surroundings. It is, instead, a change of direction within his heart that propels him to accept happiness as his normal condition.
Rarely is a child taught this simple truth. We witness many children's visions of happiness being outwardly directed towards this prize or that. We assure you that you already are happy, and the enjoyment of that happiness is the factor that attracts to you that which you seek, Flex this muscle often, and with practice, this element shines in greater quantities. With intent, happiness can be felt within your body and can be increased in size and strength. We are happy to help you with this intent, reminding you often of its importance."
~Doreen Virtue, Messages from Your Angels