― Byron Katie
As I was thinking about the investment of the time and energy we place on our 'thoughts' I couldn't help but think of the work of Byron Katie. As a profound healer and connector, she has created a process called The Work. The Work offers four questions to help examine the thoughts you've been believing. I love the simplistic, yet profound nature of these questions. (Checkout a more detailed outline of her work here)
- Is it true? (Yes or no)
- Can I absolutely know that it's true? (Yes of no)
- How do I react, what happens, when I believe that thought?
- Who would I be without the thought?
As I sit with these questions, I feel the thoughts popping like bubbles. Our lives are very susceptible to the quality of our thoughts. If we believe something to be true, we begin a chain reaction in our internal landscape which can't help but echo out into our external lives.
Just the other day I found myself de-bunking a thought that I had been viciously holding onto. It was one of those thoughts that had me so far in the future I couldn't even feel my body in the present moment. I was sure I was right. As I reviewed these questions I realized I really didn't know who I'd be if I didn't have that thought anymore, and as I dove deeper, if I disputed that thought I would no longer be a victim in this particular situation. Holy wow! This space is where our self compassion comes. This is the space that my teacher Michael would say, "Lean in ya'll."
Our lives change and the lives of those we love and care about change as we begin to move deeper into our own work. At a recent training I attended, Carol Lampman shared that, "By participating in our own healing work, we heal seven generations forward and seven generations back."
Today may you have the courage to ask these life giving questions. Just because you have a thought doesn't mean it's true. Grant yourself the gift of becoming more awake and aware in your life!
May You Sweetly Seek:)